Looking for a certain something to fill a hole, or fasten you together? Feeling lost? Something missing?
Like, "all the kings horses, and all the kings men...can't ..."
Depending on another for personal value and strength never works. Its a recipe for defeat, depression, division...disaster. You really are asking them for something they cannot provide. And, you go around, and around...and around again. As much as you try, it seems to no avail. It becomes exhausting... Try something else. Something you may have been avoiding...
Revisit the God you once trusted and find value and strength again. He's been there all along.